One Healthy Fiancé

This week’s One Healthy Guest is someone I know pretty well, my fiancé, Nick! Learn how Nick balances life as a developer, One Healthy Hamptons insider, and of course, the luckiest man in the world…

91. Tell us a little bit about yourself. How did ‘life as you know it’ come to be?

I moved a lot when I was a kid, which meant I got to experience a lot and meet a lot of people, but it wasn’t until settling in the Hamptons that I truly felt at home. Although people come and go, this place is a constant for me. After college, I passed up a good opportunity at a finance firm in Manhattan to work at a small development company out here. My fear was falling into a career that years down the road, would just be a job, not a life. I started at the bottom and worked my way up, learning everyday. I was involved in every aspect of the job. It didn’t take me long to realize that this is my passion. I truly wake up everyday and love going to work, it’s not just a job, it’s my life. I now have more knowledge and confidence in my own designs and skills, but the learning never stops. I’m not sure if my love for real estate was always within me or if it developed with experience, but I know that now it is my true passion.

97 gloverWhen I met my fiancé, Kiley, (you may know her) my focus shifted from friends and fun to building a career and a future. Real life. Our relationship gave me a sense of foundation to really go for it. In 2011, I started the company DeMarco Development (site coming soon!) Kiley and I support each other daily in our own goals. We’re each building our own businesses while building a life together. Now, we live in a farmhouse in Sag Harbor village, close to the village and the ocean. We’re lucky.

2. What’s something you overcame and how?

Moving around a lot as a child was a challenge. It was sometimes a struggle to settle in and get to know new people. I tried to be tough and suck it up. Starting a new life in a new place was always hard, but because of sports and school, I met friends fast and it always worked out. The Hamptons is my home. It’s quiet sometimes, which is great for getting work done and relaxing, but the summer brings fast-paced fun and excitement. It’s the best of both worlds.

3. What is your favorite workout? Favorite weekend activity?

I lift weights most days. Weight lifting at the gym and playing sports, like ice hockey and golf, are my favorite ways to stay active.

As for the weekend, I like to catch up and get a lot of work done on Saturday mornings to plan my week ahead. During the summer, my favorites are golfing, family barbecues, and going to Montauk with friends. I love the relaxed beach-town attitude in Montauk.

47863_553311577123_817022_nAs for the winter, I like to go out for a nice quiet dinner. I love watching football on Sundays, just relaxing on the couch with no agenda.

4. As a young man, developer, fiance, business owner, and a member of the Hamptons community, how do you maintain balance in your life?

Time management is really important. I’m organized (super neat, I put Kiley to shame) and prioritize work and family on top of all else. I like to think that I balance a healthy lifestyle. Going to the gym is crucial for me to release energy, stay in shape, and feel my best. I have to keep up on the job sites, so staying fit is important. I have gotten into such a habit of going to the gym after work that I feel ‘off’ when I don’t go, it’s just a part of my day and I always make time for it. Eating is something I’ve become much more aware of over the past few years. I know I’ll feel better after eating chicken and vegetables than I will after three slices of pizza.

5. Any great healthy/balance tips for other busy men?

When it comes to work, work as hard as possible and then work harder. Same for fun and relaxing. I am pretty strict about my routine during the week, but I definitely let myself relax and indulge on the weekends. Decompressing makes it possible to get up Monday morning and work twice as hard. Also, small changes are better than nothing. I’ve made small, doable, shifts, like choosing Ezekial bread for sandwiches, Greek yogurt, fresh fruit for snacks, and much less frequent fast food. Kiley kind of put a damper on me enjoying fast food, but it’s obviously for the better.

6. What food items do you always keep in your house?

Peanut butter and jelly, Ezekiel bread, hummus, eggs, apples, and Chocolate Haagan Daaz (with chocolate sprinkles.) One Healthy Hamptons pretty much takes over the kitchen, but I’m allowed a little space in the cabinets and the fridge for the above.

7. What is your favorite indulgence?

My favorite food in the world has always been an everything bagel with cream cheese. Other indulgences are watching football on Sundays and Raisinettes at the movie theater.

8. How do you make health a priority in your home?

I live with One Healthy Hamptons, so I don’t have a choice.

9. What is your FAVORITE thing about living in the Hamptons?

I love the non-stop action: the real estate market, summer excitement, and Christmas-time fun.

One Healthy Breakdown: A good balance, time management, organization, and some fun make for success.

I’m Coming Home…#weddingvenueshopping

Whew! Touring wedding venues is EXHAUSTING! Super fun, special, and exhausting! Over the past week, my mom and I checked out seven wedding venues in The Hamptons and Boston (where I’m from.) It’s been an exciting few days for sure and I think I’m ready to return to my normal routine back in The Hamps.

photo 3I’ve quickly learned that wedding planning includes a hell of a lot of champagne and desserts. Not complaining! But, it’s a lot. Even without a wedding to plan, we all have weekends, celebrations, parties, meetings, traditions, and vacations. While it’s important to enjoy these events to the fullest and live a life of balance, not deprivation, it all adds up. The drinks, the clinks, the cals, the bubbly, the courses, the birthday cake, cake pops, pies, and so on.

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Who wouldn’t want to dig right into this?! You better believe I did. I tasted almost everything because it’s not everyday a girl is offered a sampler of fresh desserts involving carrot cake pops, chocolate covered strawberries, macaroons, and pumpkin whoopie pies…now is it? But, a taste is a taste and I do want to be able to fit into a wedding dress over the next few months! Yes, I had my cake and ate it too, but I also focused my enjoyment of this whole process on seeing the venues, enjoying the beautiful city of Boston, spending quality time with my mom and the rest of my family, and meeting new friends along the way!

photo 5I took advantage of this mini-vaca and enjoyed the time and these indulges. However, I did not sleep in and I did not forego my workouts. Balance is about enjoying what life has to offer, but not unraveling, or straying from goals. My goal is pretty loosely a body and mind that feels good, strong, and healthy, and a balanced, fun life. While my afternoons and evenings have been spent touring venues, getting drinks, lunch, or dinner with family, and, of course, the occasional frozen yogurt, my mornings have been spent running, spinning, at the gym, or on the yoga mat. And I love it that way. Work hard play hard, that’s really the message here.

Whether you’re in or out of your normal routine, do what you can and enjoy it. The weather is amazing this time of year, perfect for outdoor walks, runs, hikes, or bike rides. Choose something you love and do it. That way, exercise isn’t a chore but an activity. Something you know will pay off in the end, whether it’s to negate that cake pop, strengthen your muscles, stretch your body, refresh your mind, or all of the above, it’s always worth it if you ask me. Did I want to get up early yesterday morning to go to yoga? Not necessarily, but once I hit the mat, after a few downward dogs, I couldn’t have been happier that I did. That yoga class was exactly what I needed after lots of spinning. And, I enjoyed that yoga-zen for hours afterwards, an added bonus. Strive for balance, not perfection. It’s possible to enjoy every celebration, big and small, while living a healthy life. A healthy life is a longer life! More moments to enjoy!

One Healthy Breakdown: When all else fails, take the stairs!

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BIG HUGE NEWS! I’m Engaged!

I got engaged this past Friday to my boyfriend, (*fiancé*) Nick, who is the reason I’m here in the Hamptons in the first place. Growing up in Boston, I rarely ventured to the big apple and had never even been to the Hamptons until my first time visiting Nick early December, 2010. Between the Christmas lights around Southampton, the breath-taking beaches, adorable villages, and of course, meeting Nick’s amazingly fun, loving family made me fall in love with all things Hamptons. (If you can’t tell, I’m kind of obsessed with it here.) Anyway, I up and moved that May, (just in time for my first Hamptons summer!) and never looked back.

happyFriday, one of those beautiful beaches became the setting of our perfect engagement…after quite a crazy sequence of events. I have been known to send Nick on scavenger hunts to get his birthday presents in past years. Well, you know what they say about payback. The boy made me work for that bling, that’s for sure!

I got home Friday afternoon to find an envelope with clue #1 on our door saying to get my party dress on. Clue #2 stated to be ready (on time, not my strong suit) to set sail at 5:30.

hunthint1About 15 outfit-changes later and no boyfriend in sight, I arrived solo at the dock to find not Nick, but his Captain Aunt Linda on-board, to hand me clue #3.

lindaI was totally confused as I followed my next clue to the Wolffer wine stand, texting Nick that he had better be there (preferably with wine in hand.) After driving in Friday traffic to arrive at the overcrowded wine stand and parking what seemed like a mile away, I could have used something stronger than wine. Instead of Nick, two of my other favorite people approached me, Nick’s sister Danielle, and little Skye, clue in-hand.

#4I trudged back to my car and headed back out to face the traffic. Clue #4 sent me to our regular spot, Bobby Vans, where our favorite hostess handed me my next clue and sent me on my way.

BVsI got back on the road, back to the bumper-to-bumper, and headed towards the back bar at the Driver’s Seat. (Finally, I thought: my chance for that much-needed drink!) But, by the time I got there, I was so excited to get my final clue that I rushed through the restaurant, not hesitating to ask all of the hostesses “do you have a clue???” (they were just a bit confused to say the least.) I finally found Rob (Nick’s mom’s boyfriend) at the bar, having drinks with some friends he had made over the course of the hour before my arrival. Lucky for me, he had already had enough drinks for the both of us, so I carried on.

robAfter what I could only describe as a wild goose chase, I had finally gotten my last clue to head to Gin Lane, where the sea meets the land. Just as I drove towards the beach wondering where on earth to turn and park, I saw Nick’s cousin, Tyler, directing traffic. Thank goodness for this little one, I knew I was headed in the right direction, in more ways than one.

photo 4I kicked off my shoes and starting walking the beach when I finally heard Nick call my name. It was there, on Coopers Beach, with the sand between our toes, that we agreed to spend the rest of our lives together.

photo 2After a crazy few hours spent here, there, and everywhere, and a rush of emotions, I couldn’t wait another second to say yes. I am one lucky girl. I have the man of my dreams, the ring of my dreams, the job of my dreams, the best family in the world, and I finally got that much-needed glass of champagne…in the most beautiful place on earth.

photo 1Even better, my family surprised me from Boston and our two families got to celebrate together all weekend long.

photo 3And celebrate we did.

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A lot.

partyOne Healthy Breakdown: One of the best weekends of all time, absolutely perfect in every way. He put a ring on it.