A Year of Learning & Growth

Hey, guys! Been a while….sorry (but not actually that sorry.) I’ve been prioritizing my priorities pretty much since becoming a mom (moms, you get it) and writing just hasn’t made the cut. Though I’ve missed this platform, I’ve pretty much always have my hands full these days…

so, I wanted to hop on and share some things I learned and experienced during 2017 as well as some goals for 2018. Let’s get started, shall we? Please enjoy my scattered thoughts, just look at is as a glimpse inside my scattered head (moms, you get it.)

So, I mentioned priorities. My #1 has been this little chickadee. That work, life balance thing, though – not easy. On the one hand, I feel SO lucky to have my own businesses and a flexible schedule, but it is hard, guys. Right after having the baby, I jumped back into Hamptons Wellness Week planning and signed on three new nutrition clients…while adjusting to motherhood…with a newborn…and no sleep. In hindsight, not the best idea, but when it rains, it pours, right?!

I actually started to develop some anxiety, between work that had to be done, no time to do it, and the feeling that time was flying by and baby girl was growing up WAY too fast. If I was working, I felt like I was missing out on her…and if I was with her, I felt like I was slacking on work. I know, if you’re a mom you’re probably thinking “that’s your life forever, get used to it…”

Luckily, it passed, but not without teaching me a huge lesson. After finally giving myself a freaking break, getting some sleep, and getting the baby on somewhat of a schedule (which of course changes as soon as you get used to it!) Lastly, learning to accept that everything is different and that that is ok; the world is not going to end if my to-do list doesn’t get done today. While sometimes I want to rush to get 10 things done in the hour while baby naps, I know that prioritizing and getting one task done at a time is actually far more efficient. Some days, the things that used to be top priorities end up at the bottom of the list…and yes, sometimes that means skipping a workout and putting a meal together in 2 minutes that may not be healthiest.

Once I accepted the fact that I could only do one thing at a time, be one place at a time, and that the world would not come crashing down, a weight lifted. All of that hard work paid off, as our 5th Hamptons Wellness Week last June was a huge success and worth every minute of anxiety and exhaustion!

*photo credit: Satin Sky Photo // shameless plug: Hamptons Wellness Week June 2-9th, 2018!*

I learned that hard work pays off. Hard, honest, passionate work. I learned that good things take time, but it will pay off in the end. And if you’re lucky enough to surround yourself with amazing people, you’ll get there sooner, without a doubt. I could not be more thankful for my incredible business partner, Anastasia, who is doing amazing kick-ass work both for HWW and her charity, Wing It Project, in 2018!

On another note, we lost two people in our family this past year. We experienced new grief and were reminded that life is so impermanent. Every single day is a gift and the moments that really matter are those spent with the ones you love. I’ve been reminded to savor it all – both the everyday grind as well as the more special times, like holidays, family gatherings, and celebrations. You truly only get one chance on this world, so enjoy it more, live more, love more, and try, try, try to to live in the moment. Before we know it, the moments pass us by.

I believe I’ve become better at enjoying the moment, especially the simplest ones. My favorite moments in time are actually the moments between the moments – that first morning hug before starting the day or last kiss before bed, watching baby girl learn something new, burst out in laughter, or just smile at one of us. It’s all so precious I want to bottle every moment up and save it forever..if only…

On another note, (related but unrelated – I did warn you this would be scattered, no?) I had the best intentions of envisioning one word to manifest in the new year, truth is, I just couldn’t settle for one. So, I made a whole list of words. Some of my favorites are: savor, grounded, trust, limitless, simplify, play, love, create, ease…etc. Whether one word resonates with you or you want to make a list, I highly suggest writing down your 2018 word(s) and keeping them somewhere visible. Mine are right on my desk, so that every time I sit down to work, I see them. At any given time, one of the words totally resonates with me. And with that, I conclude this random post. Next one will be more succinct, promise 😉

One Healthy Breakdown: welcoming 2018 with open arms…and a little more organization here!

10 Things Motherhood Has Taught Me

There’s nothing like it in the world; motherhood is amazing, eye-opening, challenging, and completely transformational. Here are a few of the many life lessons I’ve learned over the past six months since becoming a mom to this little baby girl.

1.  Moms are BADASS. Besides the whole carrying a baby (which may or may not go smoothly, see here) for plus or minus 40 weeks thing PLUS giving birth (which is NO joke btw) moms can fit a day’s worth of tasks into an hour and an hour’s worth into 10 minutes…because we have to. What can I say, moms are pretty much superhuman.

2.  Time is better than diamonds…and chocolate…and wine. Time is the one thing that moms always want more of and never have enough of. Somehow, six months have passed in the blink of an eye since this little one entered the world. As they say, the days are long, but the years are short. Time, please slow down.

3.  Something’s gotta give. Priorities change and sacrifice is a must. For me, my #1 priority is baby girl and posting here or on social media, going to the gym, cooking dinner, dog walking, housework, and self care sometimes take a back seat. Do what you can, when you can and try to let go of #momguilt. 20 minute at-home workouts and a dinner smoothie have become quite popular around here. It’s just not all possible to fit in to 24 hours, so, cut yourself some slack; you’re keeping a mini human(s) alive and that’s a pretty big deal.

4.  Moms are flexible AF. I mean yogis are flexible, but moms are flexible-er. Go ahead, try to make a plan, schedule, routine around a mini human and their constant plot twists. And, just when you think you have it all down, everything changes…

5.  Moms are some of the most selfless beings on the planet. They live their lives based on the greater good of their children and family. Although I’ve always wanted kids, it wasn’t until the past few years that I really felt ready to put someone else before myself. It’s not about me anymore and although that’s an adjustment, it’s more than ok when looking at this face.

6.  Mom brain is REAL. If you are a mom with mom brain, have a mom with mom brain, or know a mom with mom brain, cut them some slack. Growing up, I remember my friends rolling our eyes when our moms said something a little loopy, but these days, I can barely put a sentence together or do basic math and it’s only the beginning. The struggle is real, folks.

7.  There’s nothing’ more humbling than cleaning up after a full-on diaper explosion; it will challenge you, ground you, test you, lighten the mood, and force you to live in the moment like nothing else can. It’s astounding how someone so tiny can make such a catastrophic mess.

8.  Worrying is the new normal. It does not stop. What if baby learns to crawl while I’m in the shower and crawls to the top of the stairs and then falls down the stairs and I don’t hear her?  Is that her crying? I think I hear her crying...These thoughts cross my mind all day long and I know that they will every single day from now to first steps to teenage years and beyond.

9.  Whatever you do, do NOT Google it. Ok, so that’s virtually impossible, I’ve probably googled random baby/postpartum questions at least once a day everyday since birth. Sometimes it helps, but most of the time it takes #8 (see above) and quadruples it.

10.  Mom life is the best life. There’s no arguing that. It’s just the best. This teeny, tiny growing human fills up your heart every single day and there’s no way I’d trade the mom brain, worrying, sleepless nights, and messy days for anything on earth. Life will never be the same again…and for that I am forever grateful.

One Healthy Breakdown: moms are the most blessed.